The following guidance comes from Zen Master Kyong Ho. Each of these can be used to assist our practice of awakening to our mind, how it attaches to outcomes and help to better understand the nature of the truth.
This can be used as a form of meditation and self-reflection practice, as we view each and apply it to how we typically expect the world around us to exist:
Guidance on the Path:
Don’t wish for perfect health. In perfect health there is greed and wanting.
“Make good medicine from the suffering of sickness.”
Don’t hope for a life without problems. An easy life results in a judgmental and lazy mind. “Accept the anxieties and difficulties of this life.”
Don’t expect your practice to be always clear of obstacles. Without hindrances the mind cannot grow strong and clear. “Attain deliverance in disturbances.”
Don’t expect to practice hard and not experience the unknowable. Hard practice that evades the unknown makes for a weak commitment. “Help hard practice by embracing that which is unknowable.”
Don’t expect to finish doing something easily. If you happen to acquire something easily the will is made weaker. “Try again and again to complete what you are doing.”
Make friends but don’t expect any benefit for yourself. Friendship only for oneself harms trust. “Have an enduring friendship with purity in heart.”
Don’t expect others to follow your direction. When it happens that others go along with you, it results in pride. “Use your will to bring peace between people.”
Expect no reward for an act of charity. Expecting something in return leads to a scheming mind. “Throw false spirituality away like a pair of old shoes.”
Don’t seek profit over and above what your work is worth. Acquiring false profit makes a fool (of oneself). “Be rich in honesty.”
Don’t try to make clarity of mind with severe practice. Every mind comes to hate severity, and where is clarity in mortification? “Clear a passageway through severe practice.”